How Can We Help Those Who Are Grieving?
are practical ways we can help friends and loved ones who are grieving. Here are a few:
- Listen carefully. A heavy burden lies
on the hearts and minds of those who are grieving. They need to know that they
can grieve without being criticized or judged by anyone, especially someone
with whom they share their deepest thoughts. We shouldn't worry about what we
will say or about having to say something profound. That isn’t what is needed
by those who are grieving.
- Show compassion. We show our
compassion for others by recognizing their suffering and desiring to relieve
them of it. We can be compassionate people by helping them with the tasks at
hand. How do we know what to do? We can simply ask. We might help notify
family and friends of the death. We might prepare the home to receive the many
visitors who may arrive. We could organize the collection of food that others
will bring. We might ask if we could watch the children for the family to give
parents sometime to themselves. We can help in everyday, practical ways.
- Stay close after the funeral. After
the funeral we should not immediately forget about those grieving. They will
realize a great deal of support in the hours and days immediately after the
death of their loved one, but will anyone be there to listen and be
compassionate a week later, a month later, several months later? It's at times
like those, when we go back to our routines, that those who are grieving
remember that their loved one isn’t in their routine any longer.
Those are the times the grieving most need our support.